6 Pillars of Peen Potential
So apologies.
It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted!
I did post a day or two ago, but ended up unpublishing. Admittedly, I don’t like to get toooooo….expressive on here and I was going through things at the time.
I’m okay now. I was stressed about a ton of stuff, but I’m over it.
Honestly it might be because I HAVEN’T been writing here regularly lately.
This is my RELEASE!
This is my HOME!
I digress…
I have been formulating a new rubric for male engagement.
I think you guys remember this one from a while back, but I’m pivoting things because I feel like what I listed before were “nice to haves”.
I call the new guidelines :
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The 6 Pillars of Peen Potential
I. Self Awareness
Knowledge and awareness of your own personality or character
Generally, you know who you are or who you’re not. You’re aware of what you’re good at, areas where you can improve, or even areas where you have no intention to improve. It’s that you’ve done or regularly do a deep dive into yourself and are comfortable wallowing there sometimes for your emotional benefit.
II. Self Acceptance
Admittance to and accountability for your own personality or character
You’ve done the deep dive and recognize what you found there. Some things you’re proud of, some things you’d rather not talk about, but you acknowledge 100% of what you saw. You don’t run from it, you live in it and make changes when and if you see fit.
III. Authenticity
True to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.
You’re aware, you’re “awake”, you’re yourself. You give yourself at face value using your deep self acknowledgement as your guide, and you are consistent in the way you present your character to others.
IV. Humility
A modest view of one’s own importance
No matter your accomplishments, the amount of money you have, the amount of blessings you’ve received, you still don’t hold yourself in higher regard than anyone else. You’re not really a stunter because you know all of it can be gone in seconds. You appreciate what you have and are confident in your abilities without being ostentatious.
V. Innate Attraction
Inexplicable physical attraction based on evolutionary biology
Based on pheremones generally, you naturally give off a profile that indicates how different your biological makeup is than mine. This evolved so animals could recognize who was related to them…people with a similar makeup “smelled” more “repulsive” while people with disparate immunities “smelled” more appealing. Good matches result in offspring with a wider cast for health benefits. (In non science terms, this is someone who tur.ns you even though you don’t know anything about them. Lust at first sight is scientifically proven.)
VI. Peen Health
Ability to engage in sex.ual activity with no health complications
Can you get and maintain an ere.ction, are you able to engage in aerobic activity, and also please provide documentation on your peen and declare any abnormalities, diseases, and infections if any as well as your plans to remediate or manage these conditions.
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As you can see these generally build on each other from Self Awareness to Peen health. People judged against this rubric have to meet all 6 of these requirements in the 75% range to even turn my eye because to me, my willingness to deal with you is entirely based on my respect for you. I can’t be with you if I don’t respect you…and I can’t be intimate with people I don’t respect.
Honestly looking at this list, the first 4 are generally required for me to trust you as a person, and that goes for anyone really, not just potential peens. I really don’t know how to process people who are prominently fake. They may not mean to act wayward (not self aware or self accepting), but people who are less developed in those areas can do the MOST damage to the people they care about. I haven’t learned how to compartmentalize people like that so for now I choose not to deal with them at all.
I tried to explain all this to my mom the other day and she said my rules of engagement were too stringent and that I should just start dating White men because Black men like this do not exist.
To me they don’t seem that bad because it’s the way I was raised, and like I’ve said a million times before, I don’t need to be compatible with every dude ever, just a small group. I’m okay with narrowing based on this criteria if it yields a better crop of dudes, you know?
I should also point out that this rubric applies to both relationship and situationship peen. The mode of engagement depends on what’s going on in my life at the time. Current mode is situationship because ain’t nobody got time for full time investments in people…and because of the “high bar” nobody feasible is or has drawn my eye in a LONG time.
I will have to define situationship another day as I also have rules of engagement for that…but generally, when I’m with you, I’m with you, and when I’m not…I’m not. Or as someone so eloquently put it “basically someone that wont f*ck up the flow from work->entertainment->work”.
Someone who has their own stuff going on and also occasionally wants check-ins to remind themselves that they’re human. (Not necessarily based on relations, but human connection/discussion/etc.)
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Yeah this needs more context…it just sounds like FWB. I promise it’s more than that.
Soon.
