Lessons Learned…cont.
My elders say…
Well maybe they’re not “elders” per say, but the group I’m speaking of are at least one generation older than me…but a bit younger than my parents.
I’d probably get the stank eye for calling them elders…lol.
There are a couple of blogs I read..the Blogsome crew and their affiliates…they’re a very interesting contrast to the e-environment my peers provide. For the under 30/early 30 e-crowd, they seem to be caught up in a lot of games..head games, “winning” whatever that means…basically “doing them” without much thought to the consequences of their doings.
The Blogsome crew…they don’t play that….like at all.
Mrs. Mingo posted one of her scenarios about a wife finding flirtatious messages in her husband’s phone…from the mother of one their kid’s friends.
The general consensus from the 22 comments?
“Homey don’t play that..like at all.”
They were blocking numbers, sending ole girl “My husband and I discussed your texts and WE feel they were inappropriate. If you need to speak to someone regarding our children, please contact me” messages…
Telling their husbands/SO to shut it down or they would.
Drop kicking broads…
All kinds of stuff!
Now had that same scenario been posted in a forum targeting MY peer group? Responses would have been like…
Why she checking his phone? That means she doesn’t trust him and they have other issues.
Flirting doesn’t = cheating…
He can’t control what messages he gets from other women…
Flirting is healthy for relationships…
If he’s going to cheat, he’s going to cheat…
Talking to another women regularly several times a day doesn’t mean anything…
He can’t have friends?
Maybe he doesn’t want to be mean…
Like night and day. It was telling that none of the thoughts from the latter set even made an appearance in that comment section.
It’s also interesting because in both cases, I’m not sure if BOTH sides are exaggerating what they would really do/say.
On the Blogsome crew side, I’m wondering if it’s a situation like this :
On the peer side, I’m wondering if they’re doing the “making excuses for bad behavior/misdirection/lack of accountability” thing.
Like for real, there’s no problem with a dude in a relationship talking to one other woman regularly and having flirty conversations…regularly. Like that’s cool?
For real?
. . .
o_O
I digress…
The dichotomy is interesting…especially since a lot of the Blogsome crew admittedly used to ride for the other side in their younger days…
Accountability though…it seems there’s a switch that most people flip (hopefully) at some point in their 20’s.
Before : I’m doing me. Don’t care about anyone else really…
After : Oh I guess my actions or lack thereof do affect other people. I should act accordingly.
. . .
I bet it’s fun to just live without regard for other people and their feelings…or even without being aware of yourself and your own issues. I can’t even imagine what that’s like. I think I actually 45 when I was born…
