Levels of Engagement
I have not reneged on my pillars, but I have adjusted the levels of engagement :
Old Requirement : Pillars of Peen Potential Trials must be completed with a score of 70% or better for each pillar before being considered for any level of engagement.
New Requirement : Level 1 engagement is decided based on a minimal score of 60% overall, irrespective of pillar type.
Layman’s terms : If you’re generally cool, we can hang out.
Old Requirement : Level 1 engagement includes relations and only relations. Those who start here, cannot graduate to Level 2.
New Requirement : Level 1 engagement includes relations related activities but no relations. The intent for this level is friendship with small benefits, and still limited to Level 1.
This is generally a friend you “kick it” with. You can hang out, sometimes do things, but it’s mostly friendly. They’re the person you’re “cool” with. Or that’s “your girl” or “your dude.” You enjoy spending time together and it’s comfortable, easy going. Fun times. (Pillar 5 in the 0-49% range) and or a Level 1-er
Clarification of Pillar 5 for Levels 2 and greater
There are people that physically affect you. This feeling is an urgent feeling you can’t control, the “if I engage this person, they’re going to hugely impact my life”…and you unconsciously know it. This is the person you either want to for real physically merge with (not even in a relations way, but in a spiritual way) or completely ignore them because you know being involved with them will be a big undertaking for you. This is someone who makes you feel uneasy or insecure because you know they can really see you. You can’t hide from them. And yes this is someone who activates really primal urges in you (because evolutionary biology says mating with them would yield strong kids because of their immunity profile). Thing about this person though? You can feel all this about the person by just being near them even if you know nothing about them at all.
That is the real essence of pillar 5 in the 70%+ range. It’s not really relations based, it’s a soul challenge. That person is in your life to teach you something real about yourself. It could be a shorter term fling (Level 2) or longer term commitment (Level 3) but it’s a serious undertaking for your character…and that interaction is taken very seriously.
I am lightening up to allow more casual connections. Still would kinda rather not on the relations stuff in those (to be really real…if you haven’t done that in a while, it’s kind of painful…and I’d rather go through all that with a Level 2 person….) but auxiliary activities are cool with intelligent people who are open minded and don’t mind not doing all the things. I was very black and white with that before, all or nothing, now I’m all or some things.
