About Me
KaNisa. Computer Nerd. Gamer. Thinker. Things of that nature. Also, I need things because of reasons.
Realized something today as I quickly made made my way past the overly flirtatious security guard.
I. do. not. like. small. talk.
Or shallow conversations.
The extent of my tolerance for shallow conversations is twitter…and even then I have to be in the mood to read other people’s tweets. I don’t mind tweeting myself…but I don’t really do small talk there either. It’s just me sharing a thought without the intent of inciting a response.
Lack of talent for small talk causes trouble sometimes because…
It’s how you get to real conversations. I’d rather just jump into those, but most people aren’t programmed that way. It also builds work relationships which might be more important if something that’s pending happens…
I also have a SUPER low tolerance for flirting (aka small talk with a romantic flavor).
When people do it to me, I think “why are you talking to me, you don’t matter.” (Same as how I respond or small talk).
I also don’t have a talent for doing it myself. It just seems insincere. Empty ego pumps to someone I don’t know or am not really motivated to know…and then them thinking they’ve “put the moves” on me?
Eh…I’ll pass.
I don’t think I flirted with Frog either when we started out…or really there was just a different version of it. Our first conversation was geeking over computer things and reminiscing about computer geek stuff. It brought the same feelings I guess flirting would bring, for me anyway…and it was more “real” than..what did the guard say today…”girl you make that red look good” or when I stumbled walking across the lobby “I would have caught you…”
Creeper.
I don’t know, maybe I should just stop being so analytical about everything and learn to take things on the surface.
I can’t take a compliment either unless it’s something I know to be true. (Can only take work ones when I know I’ve gone above and beyond on something. If I just did my job and got a compliment, I feel like it’s condescending.)
But I will give compliments (something I only give when I am truly impressed).
Stringing them together because of reasons though?
Only for someone I’m invested in.
Authenticity…that’s really what I’m all about.
The shallow stuff is for the birds.
This entry was brought to you by INTJ : How to converse with an INTJ
ETA : Found this on a board discussing how INTJ’s flirt with other INTJ’s. Me and Frog are both INTJ’s. 100% true :
*normal conversation*
*normal conversation*
*proposal to be friends with benefits*
*normal conversation*
*intercourse*
*normal conversation*
Had some differences in the steps in relationship building, but basically that’s the general idea. Direct and to the point.
Moved my blog to the root domain. Meant to do so a while back, but never got around to it.
I put a redirect on the old directory so hopefully feeds should still be working.
Just in case though :
RSS : http://andsoitislive.net/feed/rss/
RSS2 : http://andsoitislive.net/feed/rss2/
RDF : http://andsoitislive.net/feed/rdf/
Atom : http://andsoitislive.net/feed/atom/
Update your bookmarks if you like, but it’ll still redirect regardless.
That is all.
Saw someone on twitter rewteet “Ladies on my glorious TL, when do you consider it ‘too late’ to have children?”
Some responses were okay…some said menopause, some said 40, or 40+…
But some responses person was getting were like 33 sometimes even younger.
Dude himself said being 50 with a teenage child wasn’t appealing to him. And that his mom had him at 33 “a terrible age”. o_O And even 30 was way too old.
o_O
I asked the person who retweeted how old this dude was.
She said 26.
o_O
My question is this : Are all you people who are saying ages between 30-35 are too old for you to be having kids, and you want kids, are you living your life accordingly?
Not to say you need to be married, but if you want to be married, are you on track to be able to be in a selfless and mature relationship within 4 years? (or really 3 assuming people are turning 27 this year)
Are you going to have your money and savings in order within 3 years?
Are you going to be able to AFFORD a child or shoot even a PREGNANCY within 3 years (Pregnancy isn’t free! Even with insurance!)?
Are you ready to be responsible for the LIVES of 2 people (assuming you’re going to be married first) within 3 years?
3 years goes by in a BREEZE! Especially when you’re in “I’ll do that later/when I grow up” mode.
Good luck with that ya’ll. Meanwhile back on earth…
As long as I can do so, and do so safely, there is no age that’s too old. Having kids is a lifetime job. You’ll be an old parent eventually no matter how long you wait.
My timeline is based on when I get married. Do want to spend some time just being Mrs. [insert last name here] and being able to jet off whenever or relate on the counter with my husband without fear of being caught. Ultimate goal for my life though IS to have kids with prime sperms and supporting male character infusions so mini-us can help influence some of their ratchet peers not to be ratchets.
Time for Mini–us comes 3-5 years after we legally become us , unless the powers that be have other plans…
I could easily make it to 35 before someone pops out…even later maybe depending how life goes.
Just saying, if we’re blessed to be able to do so, and we have the resources to support, we might have a small colony.
*marks this for when one is coming down the canal and I’m like “I’m never having sex again!”
I don’t know why I was stalling on this…but had it in my queue for Gamefly. It came this weekend and I opened it up just now.
Loves it! This is about the best kine.ct game out there. It’s the best use of the technology, and some of the dances are really fire!
Check them out!
This is the first one I tried.
Had to do it…especially with the hair whip/head roll experience (skee wee)
This was really fun
I had a break and just found videos to share after that one, lol.
Gotta do it for Atlanta
This one is nice
